by Sarah Steele Accredited Breakup and Divorce Coach
The festive season, while magical, can also feel daunting when you're facing it as a single person or a single parent. However, Christmas can be an opportunity to create new traditions, embrace empowerment, and rediscover joy.
Here are my six practical and actionable tips to help you not just get through the holiday season but thrive and enjoy!
1. Reframe the Holiday Narrative
What to Do:
Shift your perspective on Christmas. Instead of viewing it through the lens of what’s missing—such as a partner or "perfect" family unit—focus on what you do have. Embrace the chance to redefine traditions, make new ones and build unique experiences with your children.
How to Apply:
Journaling Exercise: Write down three things you’re looking forward to about Christmas, even if they’re small—like the smell of a fresh pine tree or cosy movie nights.
Identify a new tradition you can start this year, such as having a real Christmas tree and not an artificial one, plan a day out with your children to a Christmas tree farm to choose one.
Create a mantra such as, “This is my chance to create meaningful moments.” Repeat it when holiday stress creeps in.
2. Set Boundaries and Plan Ahead
What to Do: The holidays often bring logistical stress, especially for co-parents. Clear communication and pre-planning can minimise last-minute chaos, leaving more room for enjoyment.
How to Apply:
Co-Parenting Plan: Draft a holiday schedule with your co-parent early. Decide who has the children and when, and agree on gift-giving to avoid duplication or disappointment.
Family & Friends: Let the extended family know your plans ahead of time and politely decline overwhelming commitments. Use phrases like, “Thanks for inviting us, but we already have plans that day. “This will ensure your boundaries are protected.
3. Create New Traditions
What to Do: If certain traditions feel painful or too tied to your previous life, replace them with something fresh. This can empower you and your children to look forward to the holiday in a new way.
How to Apply:
DIY Decorations: Get creative with the kids by making ornaments or decorating a gingerbread house.
Personal Rituals: For singles without children, establish a “me” tradition like watching a favourite movie with a festive cocktail or volunteering at a local shelter.
4. Focus on Connection:
What to Do: Christmas isn’t about material things—it’s about connection. Nurture your relationships, whether with your children, friends, or community, to stave off feelings of loneliness and sadness.
How to Apply:
Quality Time: Plan specific activities with your children, like a Christmas Eve storytelling night or a winter walk.
Social Network: Don’t hesitate to reach out to friends. If you know people who are in the same situation as you, why not plan a get-together? It’s so important to have something to look forward to, and it’s so uplifting to be surrounded by friends who support you and make you feel good.
5. Practice Self-Care
What to Do: Amid the demands of parenting or navigating solo life, don’t neglect yourself. Self-care allows you to show up as your best self for the holidays.
How to Apply:
Morning Routine: Dedicate 10–15 minutes each morning to meditation, journaling, or even stretching to centre yourself.
Treat Yourself: Buy or do something small for yourself, like a spa day at home or your favourite holiday treat. Remind yourself that you’re worth it.
6. Embrace Gratitude
What to Do: Gratitude is a powerful tool for shifting your mindset. By focusing on what you have, you create space for positivity and joy.
How to Apply:
Gratitude Jar: Start a family activity where everyone writes down something they’re grateful for each day leading up to Christmas. Read them together on Christmas Day. This is one of my favourite things to do before lunch!
Reflection Time: Before bed, list three things you’re thankful for that day. Even small moments—like a hug from your child or a cheerful song on the radio—count.
Sarah’s Final Thoughts
Christmas as a single person or single parent doesn’t have to feel like a season of lack or loneliness. With the right mindset, clear planning, and meaningful new traditions, it can become a time of empowerment, joy, and connection.
By embracing the holiday on your terms, you’re not only teaching your children resilience and creativity but also giving yourself the gift of peace and fulfilment.
So, take a deep breath, trust in your ability to make this season memorable, and let this Christmas be a celebration of your strength and love!
Have a fabulous Christmas, and I hope applying my tips helps you find joy and peace this Christmas!
Sarah xx
My name is Sarah Steele, and I am an Accredited Breakup, Separation and Divorce Coach and Master Practitioner if you need support both emotionally and practically to help you survive and thrive pre, during or post your divorce I can help you.
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