It's nearly that time again when we look to take our children on holiday.
However, it can be a daunting prospect if you are a single parent.
So much to think about, so much responsibility.
I don’t want you to think about all the things that could go wrong, I want you to think of all the things that will go right!
I don’t want you to worry about it, I want you to enjoy it, and see it as a great way to bond with your children and have some fun!
So, here’s a few tips to help you
If this is your first holiday away as a single parent, go somewhere you have been before, however, if that might be too emotional, be brave and start making new memories somewhere that you perhaps have always wanted to go, and your ex didn’t.
Go somewhere you feel safe.
Booking a suitable stay
There are so many hotels that claim to be child-friendly, but the real picture can be very different.
If you can book through a travel agent, ask for recommendations.
Here are a few other things to check:
· The hotel has baby equipment e.g. a cot, steriliser, or baby monitoring equipment
· Mini fridge for baby milk or drinks and snacks for the children
· Kids pool
· Area for play
· Complimentary breakfast and WI-FI for the children
· Fun activity programme or kids club that’s free to use
Getting the right deals
Money may be tight for single-parent families, so choosing the right package is essential to ensure value for money.
If you don’t want to use an agent :
· Book flights through airline apps and websites to secure the best rates
· Book hotels that charge by the room rather than per person
· Pick a venue or resort that caters for all pockets in terms of restaurants
Holidaying with a little one
Make sure if you are travelling abroad to sterilise everything, as they have delicate immune systems.
Buy a small portable sterilizer if you can, but most good hotels should have equipment for you to borrow but check this out before you fly, with the travel agent.
Little children are easy to pick up, but if you can invest in a study lightweight stroller, I would definitely recommend it.
This will help you easily move around your destination and airport, and great to take to the restaurants as your child can fall asleep, in the stroller for short periods, so you can enjoy your meal
Choose one that has a sunshade as well.
Flying with your children
Remember ask for help!
The staff on the plane are always willing to help.
Yes, it’s going to be challenging but you can do this!
Here are a few things to keep in mind:
· Check in online before you get to the airport
· Travel as lightly as you can
· Ensure you have lots of wet wipes, and tissues to clean up any spillages that may occur
· Pack a medical kit, sanitisers, plasters etc
· Carry printed copies of boarding passes as well as putting them in your phone wallet
· Purchase a fast track or speedy board if you can
· If the airport has a family lane go for it as they are shorter and allow for pushchairs
· Ask for help with your luggage and prams
· Ensure you have transport arranged at your destination
I want you to focus on how fabulous it will be when you get to your eventual destination.
Think how empowered you will feel, when you realise you have managed so well taking your children on holiday.
Engage your children’s help
· Tell your children how it will be different as there is just one adult to look after them.
· Tell them how proud you will be of them if they behave and are helpful to you.
· If they are older, they will relish thinking you have given them a responsibility, maybe to help
with the luggage or be in charge of snacks for the journey.
Make rules and establish boundaries
Have an open and frank discussion with your children, about how you expect them to behave on holiday and remind them as often as you need to.
It’s important to give them praise when they behave well and tell them how proud you are of their behaviour.
Remember they will be super excited to be on holiday and may lapse, but it’s for their safety and your peace of mind that they behave well.
If you are going to an airport or busy resort, make your children stand out, in case you lose sight of them. Dress them in a colour you will instantly recognise or a distinctive back backpack. Just in case those little darlings decide to wonder.
Siesta time
If you have young children, it may be a good idea to introduce a nap period, as they may be up later than usual for hotel entertainment. This will also then give you an opportunity to have time for you to recharge your batteries!
Plan your day
Don’t expect too much of yourself
Yes, the most important thing is for you to have quality time with your children, whether that be at the pool, making sandcastles on the beach or just talking over a meal, but it’s also ok for your children to have a little time without you entertaining them.
Here are a few tips to help you:
· Take a portable screen for you to watch some films together during the evenings
· Children love making new friends on holiday, befriending other single parent with children or other families
· Make use of hotels/venues playgrounds, entertainment or kids club
Planning for your return
You will probably be tired on your return, so why not ask a family member to stock your fridge up with some essentials and leave a meal ready for you to heat up for you and your children on your return?
I hope these tips help you.
Remember, make new memories, embrace the challenge, take lots of photos, and videos, remember to get a souvenir and most of all HAVE FUN!
Sarah xx
My name is Sarah Steele, and I am an Accredited Breakup, Separation and Divorce Coach and Master Practitioner if you need support both emotionally and practically to help you survive and thrive pre, during or post your divorce I can help you.
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